Divorce Wars

Divorce and war have a lot in common. We can learn helpful strategies about surviving divorce by taking tips from the marines. Start with getting strong and always doing the right thing.

“War is an extreme test of will. Friction, uncertainty, fluidity, disorder and danger are its essential features.”
  Warfighting – U.S. Marine Corps

Since I’ve been doing Midlife Divorce Recovery Boot Camps, I’ve been studying the U.S. Marines and their Boot Camps and how they go about preparing soldiers for battle. I’ve been reading a manual put out by the Marine Corps called “Warfighting.” This manual talks about the Nature of War, The Theory of War, Preparing for War and The Conduct of War. I was surprised at all of the similarities between war and life … and war and divorce. One particular  chapter, from which the quote above was taken, talks about the essential features of war which are friction, uncertainty, fluidity, disorder and danger. Haven’t you all felt those five things while going through your divorce? Marines learn to deal with those things. They learn to keep a cool head in spite of danger, uncertainty and disorder all around them.  We can learn from them.

I can’t think of a time when my life was more disordered and uncertain than during my divorce. I’m going to keep reading this manual and learn more about how the Marines learn to handle those things. (Besides killing someone!) I do know a couple of things from previous reading. Marines are in shape physically and they always strive to do the right thing in every circumstance. Let’s put at least those two things into practice today. Be healthy and do right. I’ll keep you posted on what else I learn.

“Be prepared. You’re up against far more than you can handle on your own. Take all the help you can get, every weapon God has issued, so that when it’s all over but the shouting you’ll still be on your feet. Truth, righteousness, peace, faith and salvation are more than words. Learn how to apply them. You’ll need them throughout your life. God’s Word is an indispensable weapon. In the same way, prayer is essential in this ongoing warfare. Pray hard and long. Pray for your brothers and sisters. Keep your eyes open. Keep each other’s spirits up so that no one falls behind or drops out.”  
Ephesians 6:11-20 (The Message)

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